Are you dating? Searching for “your person?” Perhaps you are already seeing someone and trying to decide if you should take it to the next level?

Or are you trying to decide if you are ready to start dating again following a break-up or divorce?

Do you find yourself getting involved with the same type of person again and again? Or are you ending up facing the same difficulties that ended past relationships?

Perhaps you tired of endless swiping and longing for a deeper connection.

We are meant for connection. Most of us want to find a partner with whom to share life’s ups and downs.

The search for one can be exhilarating and frustrating, fun, and exhausting. Dating apps have made it easy to meet people, yet have made making deeper connections more elusive.

Mia recommends that you approach dating with intention and purpose — a clear understanding of your strengths and your challenges and what you want out of a relationship. It can be scary to open up and be vulnerable. We are often afraid we will scare someone off by sharing our needs and addressing red flags when we see them.

Dating is an opportunity to get to know yourself.

Too often, people are not clear about why they are dating — what they are looking for in a partner, what kind of relationship they want, and ignore the red flags that usually show themselves pretty early on. How can you find “the one” if you do not really know yourself or perhaps do not have the confidence to ask for what you want in a partner?

Dating is a time of exploration — an opportunity to get to know yourself as well as others. When dating is done with a sense of purpose, it is an opportunity not only to learn about yourself, but also practice active listening, and ask questions that foster getting to know someone more deeply. Knowing the questions to ask will help you learn to pay attention to warning signs and be able to communicate your needs confidently.

It is also essential to know what you want in a partner and a relationship. Being clear on how you want to feel in a relationship, as well as identifying the traits that your potential partner must have, will help ensure you do not ignore or rationalize warning signs and end up in a relationship that is not right for you.

Mia has been helping singles in their search for “the one” for several years and led a weekly talk about dating. Contact Mia to begin a journey of self-discovery that will help you enjoy finding “the one.”